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  • I Can’t Get No Satisfaction

    In many instances, we cannot get satisfaction, at least not on earth. We may pray for understanding, but I think God is waiting for us to
  • Dealing With Toxic People

    Dealing With Toxic People "Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character" (1 Corinthians 15:33 NIV). Many years ago as a college student I took a biology class, and we spent some time learning about toxicology.  I remember learning about the toxic threshold, which is the exposure level or dose of an agent above which toxicity or adverse health effects can occur. I recently listened to a radio show about “toxic” people on a local Christian station.  Clearly, exposure to these people is not lethal, but it is very problematic.  All of us can be toxic to others at times, and Christians are not immune.  Some Christians are particularly prone to being toxic due to arrogance or self-righteousness. A toxic person is driven by pride and ego.  They have a need for control, and their heart is often filled will hate, shame, or other negative emotions.  They are not aware of their problem and will...
  • Purpose

    Purpose “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans” (Proverbs 16:3 NIV). Planning is critical in life.  Financial planners help us get our financial matters in order and plan for retirement.  Doctors help us by establish a wellness plan when we are sick.  Business leaders make plans to bring a profit to the shareholders.  Our pastors help us to make plans that will bring honor and glory to God.  We plan to accommodate our priorities.  A priority is a value, goal, relationship, or cause of leading importance in your life:  something for which you live, the shaping value, a commitment that has first claim on you and your resources. In practice we all have priorities, whether we are aware of them or not. They may be consciously chosen or set for us by circumstances. We all pattern our lives toward some end, center our lives around some...
  • Serving Single Dads: How the Church Can do More

    SERVING SINGLE DADS How the church can do more According to a recent post in the DailySignal.com, one in three children live in a single-parent household. This clearly presents challenges for the parent who is raising the children. A child needs an active father and mother in their life and when one is missing or present on a limited basis, it can be difficult for the child. Men face the same challenges as women in raising children, but some churches fail to offer programs and support for single fathers. This issue is very personal for Mark May. During the day, he is the chairman and CEO of his own company. But his real job is raising his two boys, Caedan, 15, and Kamden, 13. May has been a single dad for four years, and he shares joint custody with his ex-wife. Mark May with Caedan and Kamden Peter Signorelli with Seth and Luke Jermaine Maberry with...
  • Attention Fathers! Little Eyes Are Watching

    Attention Fathers! Little Eyes Are Watching “Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.”   1 John 3:18  (ESV) Theodore and Nancy Faust Sizer authored the book The Students are Watching.  The Sizers wrote about classrooms and schools, explaining that students learn from what their teachers do and say, and also from the things their teachers do not do or say.  One significant finding from the book was “They watch us all the time. The students, that is. They listen to us sometimes. They learn from all that watching and listening.”  Children are also learning at home.  They are watching both parents.  Daughters look to their father to understand what is a Godly man.  Sons learn from their father how to treat women.  Much of what our children learn at home is learned by watching. The most important thing with children is what you do, not what you...
  • Boundaries Benefit All

    Boundaries Benefit All I just finished reading a book called “Boundaries” by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend.  It is a New York Times Bestseller and has sold over two million copies since it was first published in 1992 and then revised in 2017.  This is a Christian book that uses appropriate Scripture to help readers take control of their lives by learning when to say yes and when to say no.  The authors tell us, “Any confusion of responsibility and ownership in our lives is a problem of boundaries.  Just as homeowners set physical property lines around their land, we need to set mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual boundaries for our lives to help us distinguish what is our responsibility and what isn’t.”   This book has largely been bought by parents trying to set boundaries for their children.  Also, the book has other chapters on how to set healthy boundaries on...
  • Five Keys To Balancing Home And Work To Be A Good Parent

    Five Keys To Balancing Home And Work To Be A Good Parent Most, if not all, of us have a job in order to supply for the needs of our family. Hopefully you enjoy your job but at the end of the day, you are working to provide for your family.  We often feel the struggle between balancing work life and family life. As such, our work may sometimes cause us to miss ball games and other events and we’ll feel guilty that we’re not being a good parent. I have gathered five keys to help you balance your home and work life and be the parent that God has called you to be.  Focus on being a Godly parent.  Children are always watching their parents and they put much more importance on actions than words. One of my favorite sayings is from St. Francis of Assisi: “Speak the gospel wherever you go...
  • Healing A Broken Relationship

    Healing A Broken Relationship One thing that is as certain as death and taxes is that others will let us down. This can take many forms such as someone not living up to their end of an agreement, spreading gossip or taking advantage of our friendship. It is natural to be offended in these situations. In contrast, the Bible says: “A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense,”  (Proverbs 19:11).God considers our relationships with others to be of vital importance. In fact, we are told to restore our broken relationships before worship. God desires our hearts more than anything and He knows that if we are in conflict with another person then our heart is not receptive to the Word. We are instructed in Matthew 5:23-24, “If you enter your place of worship and, about to make an offering, you suddenly remember a grudge a friend has against you,...
  • Christian Leadership at Home

    Christian Leadership at Home Men have been appointed by God as the head of the home. I understand that many women find this troubling and the Bible is full of stories of courageous women that have served the body of Christ. The truth is that many men have done a terrible job of leading their house in any capacity, particularly spiritually. Many men are not even physically present in the home or if so, they do not recognize Jesus as their Lord and savior and will not even attend church on Sunday. A real man should be a provider. He provides identify to his family. It is his responsibility to let children know that they belong. As men, we love projects.  We love to build something and to be a part of something greater than ourselves.  Most men enjoy working with their hands and tend not be comfortable speaking to a group of...
  • Use Your Words to Build Up the Body of Christ

    Use Your Words to Build Up the Body of Christ We all say things that we regret and wish we could take back. Our words will invariably hurt somebody’s feelings and cause pain. Proverbs 18:21 tells us, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue; And they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” The tongue is a symbol of life or death “Our words can be used to share the Good News with others or tear down the Body of Christ. The Bible explains that what comes out of your mouth is simply what is in your mind, (Proverbs 12:18; Proverbs 26:28). James 3:5-6 explains the importance of the tongue: “Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body....
  • Promise Keepers Is Improving Lives

    Promise Keepers Is Improving Lives In a world where regular church attendance seems to have taken a back seat to simply not being inconvenienced, it’s important to recognize all of the good that the faithful do. That’s because some of those who go above and beyond are volunteering with organizations designed to improve lives. Among those institutions is the Promise Keepers. This Christ-center organization has affected millions of lives for the better. Overall, Promise Keepers has been lending a helping hand to men all over since 1990. Under the vision of “Equipping the local church through the Word of God to empower their men to transform the world,” this organization has undoubtedly encouraged many to turn to the word of God in trying times. That means young adults and grown men alike have learned what it means to lead a pure life while supporting the mission of their local pastors. Under a...
  • Faith Is An Overwhelming Force Of Good For Families, Friends, And Children

    Faith Is An Overwhelming Force Of Good For Families, Friends, And Children It almost seems counterintuitive: faith in a higher power is a driving force behind ill will. However, that’s the stance many take and they’ll point to extreme examples of domestic and international terrorism as a way to prove their point. It’s a bit overblown, says National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia director W. Bradford Wilcox. What’s more, Wilcox asserts in a Washington Post op-ed that citing examples of shootings outside of abortion clinics is also a bit overblown. That’s because, as Wilcox points out, research shows Americans who regularly attend religious services are less likely to cheat on a spouse, abuse them or divorce.   As Wilcox points out in his exploration of the effects of faith, a recent survey shows that children who go to church are also more likely to benefit from home-cooked meals, exhibit better...
  • Children of Incarcerated Parents Need Caring Volunteers To Improve Quality Of Life

    Children of Incarcerated Parents Need Caring Volunteers To Improve Quality Of Life The errors that parents occasionally make all too often end up on the shoulders of their children. Failing to secure a well-paying job before having kids, not having a home fit to raise children in or having kids while the relationship between you and your partner is failing are just some signs of a rough road ahead. While the ramifications of some of those mistakes aren’t as life-altering as others, ending up behind bars is a monumental disruption that is going to require complicated logistics to work around. Incarceration has a terrible effect on children.  I like to volunteer with Grace Camp and help children of parents who are presently behind bars by going fishing with them.  As simple a gesture as it may be, an afternoon fishing trip is just one example of programs and services that good Christian...
  • A Christian Perspective on Marriage

    A Christian Perspective on Marriage At almost every marriage ceremony that I have attended, the words “What God has put together, let no man separate,” are often spoken by the pastor or person conducting the ceremony. Rings are also exchanged by the happy couple. The rings are essentially a circle which has no beginning or end and is therefore a symbol of infinity. It is endless and eternal -- just the way love should be. The wedding ring is worn on the fourth finger of the left hand. This is because the vein in this finger was believed to lead directly to the wearer's heart. Marriage is a holy sacrament and a three-way covenant between the husband, wife and God. However, the National Survey of Family Growth and PolitiFact.com estimated that the lifelong probability of a marriage ending in divorce is between 40 and 50 percent. A key factor that affects rates of divorce is...

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Todd Shupe is the President of DrToddShupe.com and is a well recognized expert on wood-based housing and wood science.  Shupe worked as a  professor and lab director at LSU for over 20 years. He is active in several ministries including his Christian blog ToddShupe.com. Todd is the Secretary of the Baton Rouge District of United Methodist Men, Database Coordinator for Gulf South Men, and volunteer for the Walk to Emmaus, Grace Camp, Iron Sharpens Iron, Open Air Ministries, HOPE Ministries food pantry. Todd is currently preparing to be a Men’s Ministry Specialist through the General Commission of United Methodist Men.